men should marry hen they are young, and omen should marry hen they are young. this has been an unchanging principle since ancient times. Although it is no advocated to change customs and engage in ne eddings, pared to the 1960s and 1970s, it has bee more luxurious and the simple customs of people no longer exist. I am from Zhuzhou, hunan. Let me talk about the edding customs in Zhuzhou.
isiting and Engaging
matchmaker es to propose marriage
hen men and omen reach the age of marriage, their parents first find a matchmaker. hen the matchmaker discovers that there is someone of appropriate age in the family, they first municate ith their parents and then schedule a date to arrange a blind date location, usually a market place. on the day of the market, both the man and the oman go to the designated location, take a look at each other, say a fe ords, and sho their cheerful personality on the spot. Generally, they ill return home and talk to the matchmaker. After agreeing, the man ill choose a date for engagement (e call it dingshi there). there is also a type that is favored by oneself or by parents, such as cousins. If they are related, parents ill entrust an acquaintance to act as a matchmaker. In the 1960s and 1970s, many cousins got married in rural areas, and the third representative of siblings getting married as more. this is called \"ne relatives getting married ith old relatives\", hich is even more joyful, but this kind of close relatives getting married is still not good.
the engagement requires four kinds of gifts, that is, a fe pieces of cloth. decent families ill use dacron and dacron fabrics, nylon socks, and those ith poor economic conditions ill use khaki cloth and cotton socks. In this ay, even if the engagement is successful, the man can go to the oman's home and send some gifts to the oman's home for the Ne Year holiday. Generally, the four kinds of gifts are the same, namely, the beginning of Summer Festival, the dragon boat Festival, the mid-Autumn Festival and the Spring Festival. meat, eggs, noodles And a piece of fabric, after a year or to, hen both parties have no objections, the oman tells the matchmaker that they can cut the shoe sample (that is, the man tells the oman the size of the shoes orn by his family). the man gives the oman some money for cutting the sample, hich as only a fe tens of yuan at that time. the oman needs to make a pair of shoes for each member of the man's family and match them ith hand-embroidered insoles.
preparation before and after marriage
A necessary dory for omen
before marriage, the man gives the oman some money to buy a dory. depending on the family's economic conditions, he can give the oman three to five thousand yuan at once, and regardless of ho much money she receives from the man, these things must be allocated. one large ardrobe or bination cabinet, one table, four chairs, one b table, one food cabinet, one ashbasin rack, to large ooden cases, one small ooden case or leather case (similar to the larger travel case at present), to hot ater bottles, cups and toothbrushes, aluminum pots for boiling ater, pressure cooker and other daily necessities, four quilts and a pair of pillos. those ith good family conditions ill be equipped ith a men's bicycle, a seing machine, a black and hite tV set, an electric fan, etc. In fact, no matter ho much money the man gives the oman, the oman's parents basically don't use much of the money, and they return it to their daughter to make container money.
hat the man must prepare
In addition to giving the oman three or five thousand yuan, the man only needs to prepare one or to ne houses and doesn't care about anything else. If the man's family is poor and there is no dory for the oman, the oman ill also bring all the daily necessities.
on the day before marriage, the man must pay a gift to the oman. the gifts include: half or one pig, chicken, clothes or fabrics, shoes and socks of the oman's parents, brothers and sisters. All things should be put in place. A big rack should be used to carry them to the oman, so that the oman's onlookers can kno hat's ing at a glance. If the man's family condition is not good, he ill borro something to put on it to save face, because all the things that ent through the ceremony, except for the food, returned to the man the next day.
the oman should prepare as follos
put red packets in the quilt, usually to packets, each of hich is 40 cents for the bed maker. the big ooden box is full of fruit, peanuts, seet potato chips, eggs, candy biscuits, and clothes, shoes and socks hen you see the man's parents, brothers and sisters in the man's side. In addition, the parents also need to give the daughter some box money (hundreds to thousands depending on the conditions). because after marrying the man, the mother-in-la ill open the box the next day, and people in the village ill e around to see the excitement, the purpose is to see if the oman has given enough money for the container.
on the day before marriage, the oman ill notify the man ho many people ill e to lift things the next day. Generally, eight or more men are required because the oman needs to carry everything to the man, and the man's room only needs to be prepared ith an empty house. the next morning, a edding procession as arranged for the man to go to the oman's house to ele her. the men had to go, including the groom, to brides (omen), five to six gongs and cobalt teams, and people carrying things. they all ent to the oman's house to have breakfast together, bloing and playing. After dinner, the oman sent off the edding, ith one man and to omen seeing off the bride. the procession carrying things took a step first, and then the groom and bride folloed ith umbrellas. Regardless of the eather, each person had an umbrella, bloing and beating all the ay to the man for lunch.
After dinner, the edding scene is also the most lively scene during marriage. the purpose is to help the groom and bride eliminate the feeling of shyness. Various programs try to make their body and skin contact, such as mouth to mouth eating dates, to people lighting firecrackers, kittens fishing, and ash picking. the more tricks, the better. No matter ho big or small, they can make as much noise as they ant. After the 1980s, the habit of making edding scenes gradually changed to atching movies, videos, and singing.
conclusion: marriage in that era as the simplest, especially for office orkers and orkers ho ate the national food, let alone orry about anything. they had free love, and hen they got married, their unit had a share of the house. the unit leaders ould personally hold the edding for the young couple, and after marriage, the young couple sloly made some furniture. Unlike no, houses must be bought by themselves, and some people ould bee property slaves for a lifetime. that era as truly socialist!
Later, ith the development of society and the improvement of material living standards, betrothal gifts emerged, starting ith three major items: bicycles, atches, and seing machines. Later, it developed into four major items, five major items, and so on, until no, I on't say much about it.